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I’ve been “looking for love” since I was 8-years-old. Don’t believe me? When my mom passed away I found the following poem I wrote when I was 8-years-old still in her wallet:
Love Is…
Love is like a rose, covered in pain.
Trying to understand it will drive you insane.
People have tried to learn how it makes you feel,
But the thing about love is no one ever will.
Love is like the water which can smoothly flow
It is also like a turtle which moves very slow.
Love is like the sun which shines from day to day,
But it can also make your heart break in every kind of way.
Love is hard to understand,
And the Lord knows I never can.
See? Told you. So throughout my searching, I always tried to conform to what the girl I liked wanted me to be. “Lose a couple of pounds and I’ll be your girlfriend.” That was an odd one now that I think about it. But throughout my relationships I always put the woman on a pedestal and believed that I had to do and bee exactly what they wanted or else I wasn’t good enough for them. Guess what. That’s a lie. Don’t tell yourself that lie.
See, for a true relationship to form, you have to be accepting of the other person, and (the important part) they have to accept you for who you are. When I met my wife it was right after I had given up. I had just come out of a bad relationship, like all my other ones, and I told myself not to even bother. If someone didn’t like me, so what. I stopped looking for love at that point. I just decided to start being myself and having fun. Then I met my wife and we’ve been together for over 11 years. We’ve accepted each other for everything that we are and love each other for it.
That’s a true relationship. If you’re trying to be something you’re not, you’re lying to your significant other in a way that will only hurt you and may hurt them. (I say “may” based on experience.)
(I want to give credit to Kristen who mentioned something like this in another recent post of mine in the comments. It sparked some memories and thoughts that led to this post.)
DIET DIARY
Numbers from Today
Blood Sugar: 107
Weight: 280.0
Fat Percentage: 47.9
Water Percentage: 30.4
Muscle Percentage: 34.8
Food and Exercise from Yesterday
Fluids: Water (16 oz - 5 times a day)
Exercise:
None.
Meal 1:
Oatmeal
Multivitamin
B150 Vitamin Complex
Snack 1:
1 Slim Fast 220 Calorie Optima Bar
Meal 2:
Grilled Chicken Sandwich
Fries
Butterfinger Cheesecake Slice
(These were at a restaurant, so I don’t have the recipes to share. However, I will say that I ate a very small portion of the sandwich and fries just to save carbs for the small slice of cheesecake. It’s nice to treat yourself every once in a while. But I still didn’t break my diet. 
)
Snack 2:
1 Slim Fast 220 Calorie Optima Bar
Meal 3:
2 Peanut Butter Sandwiches
Chips
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By Rudy on Jan 27, 2008 |
I can relate to you. When I first met my wife, I also just came off a bad 5-year relationship. If she can love me then I’m better with her. We’ve just celebrated our 7th year anniversary. Of course, we’re still trying to figure out each other, and learn not to take each other for granted. Acceptance is a Good Thing(tm).
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By Tip Diva on Jan 27, 2008 |
Well, like Captain and Tennille sang, “Young and beautiful someday your looks will be gone; When the others turn you off who’ll be turning you on?”
It seems that most people figure out what a relationship is really about too late in life, and suffer one too many heartbreaks for it. I wish this is something we can ingrain in children early, but what role models do they have? “The Bachelor”? Paris Hilton?
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By Tim on Feb 8, 2008 |
Looking good is always nice, you’ll have more chance of scoring. But the most important thing is confidence. If you have a lot of confidence and your actions show it, then you can get any girl you want (speaking from a guy perspective).
Love is much more complicated than just casual dating and physical attractions. Love involved mind, body, and spirits and some people fail to find it throughout their entire live.